Temptation While Traveling

I stepped off the plane and into the Charlotte International Airport. I was weary from the strain of travel and not looking forward to my layover. I carried two heavy bags on my shoulders and the frustration of having to walk from the far end of one terminal to another. Worse, when I arrived at the other terminal and sat down, the flight attendant announced the gate had changed to the end of a different terminal.

I loudly said, “You have got to be kidding me!”

“That’s what I said.” She stood there on crutches; her right foot encased in a large medical boot.

I felt rather foolish. I said, “I guess I shouldn’t complain.”

She hobbled over to two other women and I saw they were gathering their things. They seemed to have a lot so I said, “Do you need help?”

“No.” she said. “I have medical transport coming with a wheelchair.”

So I waved politely and left them.

I found myself walking on one of those speed belts that carries people quickly across the terminal. It was lunchtime and I was hungry. All I wanted to do was sit down with my blueberries and pistachios (my healthy lunch!) and eat. But when I reached the beginning of the terminal, I discovered a food court of sorts between it and the next. I stood on the beltway and ogled the parade of restaurants as if I had never seen junk food before.

I thought I had entered some kind of food carnival—which I suppose it was. I kid you not—the set up was incredibly enchanting; as in, it put a spell on me!

Candy-cornucopia!

I saw a booth with every kind of candy imaginable. I saw Cinnabon. Chick Fil A. A pizza joint. A Mexican eatery. Like a bright pink beacon, I observed Dunkin Donuts and then TCBY. Saliva threatened to fall from my mouth so I closed it. The smells were intoxicating. I had not experienced such temptation since before Covid and I was ill prepared. Fortunately, I was on a belted walkway and was not able to jump over the rails and dive into the nearest soda fountain. It was the first time I was grateful for my heavy bags. Still, I noticed the comfortable looking white rocking chairs—not unlike those outside of Cracker Barrel—and I thought how easy it would be to grab some food and slip into one. I had complete anonymity. No one would ever know. No one—that is—except me.

Have you ever stared temptation in the face? How did you respond? Did you bare your teeth and growl like a wildebeest guarding its young or did you simply hand them over and roll on your back?

I suppose that seems like a coarse analogy but its truer than we realize. With temptation there is no middle ground. At any given moment we are either actively fighting or willfully surrendering.

For the first time in my life, I asked myself why the food was such a temptation to me. I had two of my favorite snacks and was excited to eat them. I also knew how crappy I would feel if—for instance— I ate Chick Fil A. Was it the colors? The smells? The presentation of the food? Was it the sheer number of choices? Was it the fact that it was lunch time and I was extremely hungry? I mentally checked off all of these as possibilities and then a thought hit me square between the eyes: the airport food court had been specifically designed to ensnare weary travelers.

Professional farmers tell us we are far removed from the harvest to table process. We don’t see the seed go into the ground nor the plant grow. We don’t see the crop shrivel for lack of rain or thrive under perfect conditions. We don’t celebrate a “bumper crop” nor weep when we lose everything. We simply walk into a grocery store and poke at produce with the privileged air of a debutante dismissing ugly suitors. We also infrequently consider how the food we eat affects our bodies. We simply approach the counter, select what looks most appealing, and eat it as quickly as possible.

Our thought process usually runs something like this: eat first; ask questions later. Although we usually skip the second part.

I used to lament my slow metabolism. Why, after all, was I so fat when others ate plenty of junk food and remained slender? My focus was fixed on the injustice of one body type versus another instead of the overall purpose for eating. I never considered food as a source of nourishment for the body. It was simply something one consumed for pleasure or comfort. Worse, my emotions were so tied up in what I ate (it was an erroneous coping mechanism) that I did not want to know what I consumed had the capability to harm or heal me. It’s almost as if I had been primed to be a food addict, and worse—the only advice I received from the culture was that it was my fault because I had no willpower. Sound familiar? I mean, would you even be reading this if you weren’t interested in learning discipline? (Or maybe you’re just a kind friend or family member who is curious about my latest travel exploits.)

(What) to eat or not to eat? That is the question.

It is a question many people don’t like to ask, but it is the question I asked myself while I sat in the terminal. While I contemplated if I could make it to the food court and back before my flight left, the companions of my booted friend approached me with boxes of fried chicken and asked if they could sit down.

Next time… “Are you really going to eat that?”

What we can learn from the Robins and the Wrens

As soon as I opened the back door, I heard the commotion. The urgent cries from a pair of robins alerted me to what I could only surmise was the imminent danger of their young. I walked under the sycamore tree with my chin in the air–looking for a nest and a predator. I saw the falcon–with the baby clutched in his talons–flying away as the brave robins vainly followed suit. Like an opera singer striving for that perfect note to shatter glass, it was clear their shrill cries would have percussed him to dust if they could. Instead, they returned a few minutes later and continued to wail over their empty nest.

Nature is cruel. For one to eat, one must die. It doesn’t seem so harsh when the robin’s are consuming worms. It is another thing entirely when the helpless babe is snatched from the nest.

People are no less brutal. Propelled by perpetually poisonous political passions, they stoke the fires of their emotions by lobbing charred logs at anyone who happens to disagree with them. Only when exhausted–or simply feeling charitable–will they remind the listener to “remember to vote” as if they were gently swaddling a baby and not sharpening their tongue for the next iteration of venom.

When did we start believing the news medias definition of those who disagree with us rather than the person we know and love? Why do we hold political narratives in our hands like swords ready to draw on loved ones? We bait them into debates and then skewer them with rhetoric. He who is wittier (or the most acerbic) wins! Surrender–or death to the relationship!

I miss the days when I could politely disengage. When I could easily change the subject. When I could discourse (and digress!) about the latest Netflix release. When did it become less dangerous to call someone fat to their face than to profess support for a political party?

I had a panic attack in Aldi this past weekend as I stood in line. I suddenly couldn’t breathe. My heart raced and I began pulling at my face covering. The more people stared at me, the more frantic I became. The lines were long and slow–something unusual for my favorite store. I started to feel dizzy and feared I would pass out, so I pulled the mask away from my face. The cashier glared at me and I blurted out, “I’m having a panic attack! I can’t breathe!”

She said, “I understand. My sister has that problem.”

As if everything was normal. As if I had just said, “It’s too bad you are out of olives.”

I struggled to bag my groceries and get them to my car. Once there I ripped the mask off and jacked up the air conditioning. I sat there for a few minutes trying to collect myself. Once at a reasonable state of calm, I raced home and began to eat my feelings–something I have not done for a very long time.

Then I got sick.

Then I had bad dreams.

I feel like the falcon of bad feelings has stolen my future and there is nothing left to do but lament. I sit near the empty nest of my hopes and dreams and cry. Does anyone hear me? Do they care? Or are they more worried about who is most politically correct?

I watched the robin parents fly back and forth from Sycamore to Oak tree when a curious phenomenon occurred; two small wrens joined them. The male perched on a limb near the robin and began to sing a slow and jaunting melody. It was not cheerful like his morning trills. Instead, he seemed to console the robin parents in their grief. The female wren flicked her tail and flitted around the robins–as if performing a dance. I could not believe what I was seeing. There seemed to be no precedent for such a display. The wrens sang a dirge while the robins mourned.

What a great lot of compassion we have to learn from these simple creatures.

 

 

How to Find Freedom from Ideological Slavery

“We will cure this dirty old disease. Cause if you gots the poison, I gots the remedy.” Jason Mraz

The computer was so hot it was smoking. My friends and relatives have found new and inventive ways to ridicule each other on social media and I am an abject bystander. It’s the stuff of nightmares. Grandmothers gets schooled by grandchildren. Friends “unfriend” people like they are scratching items off their grocery lists. Decades of affection, comradery, and shared history go up in flames and I’m over here with buttered popcorn.

I feel a little guilty about that. But Hallmark has the perfect solution!Why sit around and feel guilty when I can sit around and feel like the molten center of chocolate lava cake? Besides, who can resist beautiful women falling in love with handsome men while it snows on them? So I plunk down my hard earned pennies and subscribe. Because if anyone can save Christmas–it’s the Hallmark Channel!

After I finish “A Perfect Christmas,” I sigh with satisfaction. The happy ending has warmed me up with all manner of conciliatory thoughts and so I approach my husband to inquire when he plans to finish the ceiling tile project in the basement. (He started 2 years ago.) I am certain this time he will say, “Tomorrow, my love!” But instead I am treated to a look fresh from the secreting end of an alligator. I promptly forget all of my warm and squishy feelings and start to spew colorful verbiage at the man I promised to “love, cherish, and honor as long as we both shall live.” And then I pull up Hallmark’s murder mystery selection to get some fresh ideas for, um, hairstyles and fashion.

I have become so conditioned to my love for happy endings that I think every story should have one. Therefore, I don’t know what to do with the other humans I live with when they don’t conform to the Hallmark ideal. Strangely enough, I never considered this a form of slavery.

If the dear reader is anything like me, you are a master of comparisons. I have attained the level of “expert” for comparing my husband to men I see on television or in the media. Men do the same thing to women. For instance, my husband has a certain predilection for Sophia Vergara. Unfortunately for him, I am not nearly as sassy or sexy–though I can be as lethal if he criticizes my cooking skills. When we begin to think of people in terms of romanticized ideals, we become slaves to ideas of our own invention. We no longer have the freedom to love them as flawed human beings, but rather as the caricatures we prefer.

“I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery.” – God (Exodus 20:20)

Why is this important?

I recently went to visit an ailing friend with some housework. We were discussing the various ways people have wounded us in the past and how those injuries have affected our lives. We recognized how the words people use can form our identities.

She told me when she was a child, she and her sister heard a neighbor call them “chunky.” This had a devastating affect on her sister who promptly began dieting and spent years trying to fit into an unattainable demographic. The realty is, both sisters come from a lineage of large women. By “large” I mean, tall and muscular. They also had a mother who was fluent in the art of homecooked meals. As my father would say, “They would be the last ones standing during a famine.” (Like me) they have remarkable metabolisms! Unfortunately, they allowed this neighbor to place shackles around their ankles with a few words. Their identities were forged in a few minutes and it took years to discover that one person’s definition of them was not fair or even decent. Worse, it made them deeply unhappy about something they didn’t have much control over: genetics.

Hallmark channel movies are not by definition bad. But if we are not careful, the ideas they promote can cause us to become enslaved to ideas that make us despair. Worse, we don’t usually know it’s happening and (remain in chains) while blaming our friends and neighbors for not conforming to our version of reality/truth. Have you ever heard the saying, “If you love someone, set them free?” What if that person was you?

So how do we break free?

“For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” – Apostle Paul (Galatians 5:13-14

We must find the key to unlock the chains (deceitful narratives) that hold us captive. Examples of chains include:

“Only thin women are beautiful.”

“A good husband never disrespects his wife.”

“I can only be friends with people who agree with me.”

“I am always right.”

“I can’t lose weight.”

“Politicians care for my wellbeing.”

Freedom begins with acknowledging our flawed existence. Christians recognize these flaws as “sin.” We postulate the misery we endure and inflict stems from our innate inability to love God as we should–and therefore our neighbors. God desires to set us free but–if we are honest–we have affection for our chains. I mean, it feels good to idealize members of the opposite sex. It can be pleasant to demean our friends who don’t think as we do. We enjoy the provocative ideology espoused by the main stream media. Chains have tight controls over our emotions, therefore we must have affection for something more than our comfortable confines. I propose the key is just as God outlined in the book of Exodus via the first commandment: “You shall have no other gods before me.”

“Margaret, do you mean I can’t watch the Hallmark Channel?”

Of course not.

“Margaret, does this mean I should stop preferring Hallmark Movies to spending time with my actual husband?”

(Margaret nods her head shamefully because she is guilty of this.)

“Margaret, does this mean I have to stop hating my neighbor for being obese?”

Um, definitely.

“Margaret, I don’t know how to love God more than Tom Selleck. I mean, he is so sexy. That doesn’t feel like chains to me.”

Tom Selleck as Magnum P.I.

If we enjoy anything more than we enjoy relationship with our heavenly Father, there’s a likelihood we are ensnared to a fallible ideology. Chains make us miserable–yes, even Magnum P.I. (I’m dating myself here) because they restrict our freedoms to love God and love others well. And I can personally guarantee that worshipping at the altar of Tom Selleck is problematic because the person I am married to will never have that great of legs. But I digress!

In conclusion, I encourage you to practice solitude and prayer. Solitude makes us be alone with our thoughts so we are better able to examine our hearts. Prayer invites God close enough to kindly show us chains we may not have seen before AND most importantly–to break them.

Today, I promise by way of this blog to forsake the chains of chocolate cake with caramel drizzle that I procured yesterday by way of a co-worker. I invite my gracious Savior to give me the grace to avoid hypoglycemia even though it tastes so good. And I pray for all of my readers to find liberation through relationship with a God who delights to set captives free.